How to control anger...the ways to do it are probably endless. If I were to begin trying to list the ways for you, it would be more than you are willing to see right now. What you will find is that as you spend time looking for ways to control anger you will find out more and more about what you need to know. And once you know what to do you will then see how it is applied to your situation.
In the meantime, we will talk briefly about four very effective things that are being done by different people to keep their anger under control, and to keep them out of problems.
The first thing you do is make sure that your point of view is understood. Many instances of uncontrolled anger come from the person who hold things inside them and do not make their wishes clear. Avoid doing this.
These people react so much more violently because they have given of themselves so often and they feel as if their kindness is not being returned. They feel as though they are being taken for granted. One day, after giving so much all the time it then happens that someone tries to get them to give again and the anger erupts. It often seems as if the anger present is not really called for, but that is just the way it is with passive people. One way to keep you anger controlled then is to assert yourself more, rather than be passive.
How to control anger...A second thing you can do to get your anger controlled is to get to know more and more about yourself. You want to be able to tell what you are feeling and thinking when you are starting to get mad. If you are able to get control when you are starting to get mad you will be able to control it better than if you were already boiling over with anger instead.
Understand what situations annoy you, and put you in a bad mood. Then to keep control you only need to look out for and avoid these circumstances.
Thirdly...When you are controlling anger, you are making the effort to avoid acting out in anger. You can do this by talking to someone about the things that get you mad.
If there is someone else along with you who understands your point of view there is a better chance that you will not be as angry about a situation than if you were alone.
This fourth thing you can do should not be underestimated, to control anger you can write about it.
With your irritations out on paper you can take an independent look at your circumstances. An independent look allows you the ability to see your problem as if you were only an observer. With an independent look it is as if you can see how to instruct another person on what to do. The only thing is that the person you will be advising is yourself. - 30535
In the meantime, we will talk briefly about four very effective things that are being done by different people to keep their anger under control, and to keep them out of problems.
The first thing you do is make sure that your point of view is understood. Many instances of uncontrolled anger come from the person who hold things inside them and do not make their wishes clear. Avoid doing this.
These people react so much more violently because they have given of themselves so often and they feel as if their kindness is not being returned. They feel as though they are being taken for granted. One day, after giving so much all the time it then happens that someone tries to get them to give again and the anger erupts. It often seems as if the anger present is not really called for, but that is just the way it is with passive people. One way to keep you anger controlled then is to assert yourself more, rather than be passive.
How to control anger...A second thing you can do to get your anger controlled is to get to know more and more about yourself. You want to be able to tell what you are feeling and thinking when you are starting to get mad. If you are able to get control when you are starting to get mad you will be able to control it better than if you were already boiling over with anger instead.
Understand what situations annoy you, and put you in a bad mood. Then to keep control you only need to look out for and avoid these circumstances.
Thirdly...When you are controlling anger, you are making the effort to avoid acting out in anger. You can do this by talking to someone about the things that get you mad.
If there is someone else along with you who understands your point of view there is a better chance that you will not be as angry about a situation than if you were alone.
This fourth thing you can do should not be underestimated, to control anger you can write about it.
With your irritations out on paper you can take an independent look at your circumstances. An independent look allows you the ability to see your problem as if you were only an observer. With an independent look it is as if you can see how to instruct another person on what to do. The only thing is that the person you will be advising is yourself. - 30535
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