This Is All About How Self Esteem Is Built

By Eve Francis

When you are young and impressionable, your self esteem is being developed as you grow and is dependent on many factors that surround you and how they affect you. How self esteem is built depends on whether the factors in your lives, from birth on, are positive or negative; and the effects of these factors can last the rest of your life. Having positive self esteem is a necessity if you want to be a success in life, and there are things you can do for yourself to make that a reality.

How society perceives us as we grow and develop is a major factor in how self esteem is built, because we rely on input from others to act as a gauge as to our popularity, our worth to that society, and how valuable we feel we are to others in that society. If we feel inadequate, for whatever reason, we have doubts about ourselves and as a result a negative self image develops and that can be a tremendous influence on how we view ourselves and how we interact with society; people with a positive self image are much more successful than those without one.

One of the major causes of negative self image we find when we study how self esteem is built, is the tremendous influence that parental interaction has. A loving, rewarding experience with your parents while maturing will produce a positive self image, but a negative experience with your parents who just did not show love, or did not feel that you were worthy of their love; will produce the opposite. There are other factors at play here as well; if you had trouble with authority figures who made you feel insignificant, or teachers who made you feel stupid; or siblings and friends you teased you to the point of tears; all these can figure in a feeling of negative self worth.

The difference between folks with a positive self image and those that have a negative self image, is that those on the positive side of the fence are very often the go getters in life, take the initiative in a lot of situations, take on responsibilities readily, and pursues his dreams; but on the flip side, the negative side, that person is quite often introverted, can't seem to set any goals or accomplish anything meaningful in his life, and shies away from taking on any responsibilities.

In developing a positive self image for yourself and utilizing all the helps that are out there to do so; you must be aware of how you present yourself to the outside world. To simulate how self esteem is built so that a lasting self image can be created, you must be tuned in to how you communicate with others; how you speak and what you say----drop the negative talk and say only positive things, because you are what you think, and negative talk only produces negative thought processes.

Face your fears, appreciate yourself, reward yourself, and stop trying to please everyone; do something good for yourself and to impress yourself----possibly learn something new and learn to do it well---things like that. Think of as many positive things as you can that will help you feel better about yourself and soon you will see how self esteem is built, and can continue the process throughout your life and in everything you do.

Maintaining a positive outlook in life and a good self image can be just the shot in the arm that your self esteem needs, and once you understand how self esteem is built and practice those principles; you will find that your life will improve significantly and your outlook on life will be quite different. Avoid all those negative factors that bring you down and get you upset and force all those negative feelings you have about yourself to the surface; instead focus on what it is that makes you feel good and keeps your self image as positive as possible. - 30535

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